SPACE: The Difference Between Self‑Sabotage and a Clean Next Step

If you’re witnessing yourself… and you’re witnessing your thoughts… are you thinking? Or is your consciousness noticing thought?

That question creates space. And when life feels heavy (or you’re triggered), space is the difference between self-sabotage and a clean next step.

The SPACE Framework

SPACE is a simple way to interrupt autopilot and return to truth in your body:

• S — Sense
• P — Pause
• A — Ask
• C — Choose
• E — Embody

S — Sense

First: where is this showing up in my body right now?

Not as a spiritual bypass. Not as a performance. Just honest awareness.

Common places to check:

• Chest
• Throat
• Stomach
• Jaw
• Shoulders

Your body usually tells the truth before your mind can explain it.

P — Pause

Now slow the exhale. Unclench. Give yourself 10 seconds of stillness.

Not to “fix” the feeling — but to stop the autopilot.

That micro-pause is often the moment you stop reacting from an old identity… and start responding from who you’re becoming.

A — Ask

Ask two questions:

1. What’s the real emotion here?
2. What’s the story I’m attaching to it?

A big one that’s been alive for me lately: desperation can be a gift… if we allow ourselves to feel it beyond denial.

Because when you can feel what’s true, you stop needing to control everything around it.

C — Choose

Then choose the next right action.

Not the perfect action.

Not the action that creates more noise.

The one that creates more truth.

A helpful filter:

• Does this move me toward honesty or performance?
• Does this create safety in my nervous system or more urgency?

E — Embody

Finally: do the action as the version of you who’s already safe.

Not rushed.

Not proving.

Not performing.

This is where change becomes real — not as an idea, but as a lived identity.

Mind: Anger, Healing, and What’s Underneath

These past weeks can feel strange when heavy emotions rise. You question everything. You wonder if you’re going backwards.

But here’s something worth remembering:

Anger is often part of the healing process.

And when it’s anger from the past, it usually means there’s something underneath it — very often sadness.

Grief that needs to be understood and worked through.

SPACE helps you meet that honestly without getting swallowed by it.

Money: Belief, Receiving, and Removing the Limits

Most “money problems” aren’t just strategy problems — they’re receiving problems.

This week, I’ve been sitting with a simple invitation:

Allow yourself to believe anything is possible.

Not as hype.

As a decision to stop letting past experience set the ceiling for what you think you can receive.

Because there are only two ways to play it:

1. Act like you aren’t capable or worthy of wealth (and keep proving that story true)
2. Believe anything is possible

Option 2 doesn’t guarantee anything.

But if you’re stuck in option 1… you’ve got no chance at all.

A question to carry into your week:

Where am I still negotiating with my own potential?

And:

What would I do differently today if I genuinely believed abundance was available to me?

Mission: Courage Without Certainty

Even in the heaviness, you can still feel pulled toward what’s true.

I’ve been thinking about my grandad in the war — a mine sweeper. The courage to continue without knowing what’s ahead.

When I embody that energy, I feel relentless. Unstoppable.

So here’s the question I’m anchoring into:

What can you anchor into when you don’t have certainty?

Not the outcome.

Not the timeline.

The next step. The values. The truth in your body.

Life Lately: Nature, Reflection, and the Long Game

It’s the last working week before some downtime — and I can feel the urgency and the yearning in my soul for reflection.

The farm’s quieter. Three piglets are doing well. The cows are gaining shelter and holding condition in the quarry.

Nature has a way of bringing us back to what’s real.

And this week brought a moment I’ll remember for a long time: the arrival of the first physical copy of the book.

After years of thinking, writing, refining, and trusting the process, holding it in my hands felt grounding in a way I didn’t expect.

A reminder that meaningful work takes time — and that some things can only be rushed at the cost of their depth.

Your Turn

A few questions to sit with:

• When you notice your thoughts… who is noticing them?
• In that noticing, where could you allow a little more SPACE before choosing your next step?
• Where are you still acting from urgency or performance — rather than from the version of you who already feels safe?

If you’d like, reply with what’s coming up for you. I read every message — and these reflections quietly inform what I create next.

To our continued collective growth,

Paul

Unlocking breakthroughs in mind, money, and mission